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Thoughts of Heaven

Where do we get the idea that when we die we go to heaven? The bible speaks of heaven as a place where God is, and especially in the New Testament speaks of eternity with Christ, but Revelation tells us of a New Earth that comes down from heaven. Does the bible actually say we end up in heaven?

Common belief seems to be that everyone goes to heaven. That sounds nice, but doesn’t match what I read in the bible.

Is everyone else confused, or is it just me? (Wouldn’t be the first time it was just me!)

LaSD, Introducing The Anatomy of Peace

Appendix. Introducing The Anatomy of Peace

World #1 Bestseller in the Categories of War and Peace and Conflict Resolution

Page 201

Leadership and Self-Deception and The Anatomy of Peace have been continuous bestsellers. “… every hour of every day for over 10 years, The Anatomy of Peace has been the best-selling book in its category.”

Anatomy of Peace is written as a prequel to Leadership and Self-Deception and is the story of how Lou Herbert learned the ideas that transformed his company and his family relationships.

The story is dated about 20 years before the events of Leadership and Self-Deception, two weeks after the five Zagrum executives, including Kate Stenarude, had quit.

Lou Herbert, and his wife Carol, and their “problem child” Cory. A court-ordered treatment program in Arizona, run by a Palestinian and an Israeli; once bitter enemies; they overcame their histories and help others overcome divisions as well.

Page 202

The learning that it wasn’t just Cory who needed to change, so did Lou and Carol.

TD> Probably Lou more than Carol, but clearly learning for each.

The specific mention of the biggest conflict of all, centered in the Middle East.

TD> Very timely to be reading this now with all that’s happening in and around Israel.

People in conflict value something more than they value solutions! Anatomy of Peace shows how we  systematically misunderstand root causes and unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we say we want to solve.

Anatomy of Peace has been used in dealing with organizational silos, law enforcement methodologies, college conflict curriculums, labor-management rifts, and relationships. It is used as a guidebook for finding solutions to the most challenging problems.

TD> “The most challenging problems.” Relationships!

LaSD, How to Use

Appendix. How to Use Leadership and Self-Deception

Page 189

Five key areas: 1) Hiring, 2) team-building, 3) conflict resolution, 4) accountability and responsibility, 5) personal growth and development. I’m trying to think what it would be like to work for an organization where these concepts were built into the core culture. I can’t think of any organization I know, or have heard of, that would fit this. Know any? What about … Dave Ramsey the Grove Park Inn (Asheville) or the Gaylord organization (Opryland hotel).

Wouldn’t you like to get a behind the scenes tour at the Arbinger Institute? (headquarters in Utah of all places! https://arbinger.com/   https://www.linkedin.com/company/arbinger-institute)

Special note to myself from the end of the Leadership and Team building section. “Here is a book that will help you to see how to deal with me when I’m really being a jerk.” There’s perhaps a good way to ask someone else to focus on me! Me, the jerk.

Liked the story of the angry man who read the book twice. I identify with that one, perhaps a bit too much. Wish I’d had this book, and motivation to read it, ~30 years ago!

Summary: My extremely short summary: it’s all about relationships. People, not objects. Easy to say; not always easy to do.

LaSD, Mindset Change

Appendix. From Way-of-Being to Mindset Change

Page 187 & 188

Leadership and Self-Deception introduced to the terms “in the box” and “out of the box.” Philosophers have called these two ideas “ways of being,” [Not stated here, but this terms is used a good bit in Anatomy of Peace.

In the 20-plus-years since LaSD was published, Arbinger has switched to the term “mindset change” rather than “way of being change.” Mindset change feels inherently more changeable.

Intriguing [to me], the terms “in the box” and “out of the box” have entered the public lexicon.

Across the Arbinger books, you can translate:

“in the box” to “inward mindset”

“out of the box” to “outward mindset”

Final line of the section:

“Our mission is to turn the world outward — one person, team, and organization at a time.”

LaSD, The Arbinger Mindset Assessment

Appendix. How to Measure the Self-Deception Gap with the Arbinger Mindset Assessment

Bottom of page 185 on to page 186

The introduction to the assessment tool.

TD> Since the URL is not listed, I suspect it may change from time to time, but for the moment, it’s here: https://arbinger.com/assessments/

Even though this is an individual assessment tool, it helps to think of an organization when you take it. If you work more than one place, probably worth taking more than once.

LaSD, Research about Self-Deception in Organizations

Appendix. Research about Self-Deception in Organizations

The book “suddenly” ended, without us ever knowing Tom’s future, or anyone else’s for that matter. Bud left Tom with the assignment to rethink his view of Chuck Staehli. I wish we had the end of that story. Oh well.

Page 181

We were told at the beginning of the book that it was fiction, but based on real experience. Now we learn a bit of the reality, Lou Herbert was somewhat modeled after Jack Hauck of Tubular Steel. He’s relatively invisible, which maybe fits his character. He has a LinkedIn profile, but only a few connections. This is a slightly better (but not much) bit of info, https://www.tsiholding.com/who-we-are.

Continuing onto page 182

The somewhat sad, somewhat humorous, story of how Tubular Steel engaged Arbinger and had the management team reflect on the statement, “As far as I am concerned, the problem is me.” The company seemed to catch on, and Jack did the recap by telling everyone, “as far as you are concerned, the problem is you.”

TD> Oops. I get that. The good and the bad.

Through the middle of page 182, we learn that Jack got past his deception and was able to make a major turnaround, improving revenue in a shrinking market.

Starting at the last paragraph on page 183, to almost the bottom of page 185, we learn of Arbinger’s Mindset Assessment, and how people in organizations, consistently rathe themselves higher than they rate the companies they are in. And at the same time, believe their own self-assessment is more accurate than their co-workers. Of special note is the measurement of “horizontal alignment,” or how those in lateral positions are rated. This one items still has a gap from personal to corporate, but typically smaller than the other assessment items.

Summary: The stories in LaSD are based on reality and Arbinger’s consulting experience. Even people who have been trained to notice self-deception are still able to easily fall into the trap. We don’t know what we don’t know without outside help, which is somewhat embarrassing to receive, even when we ask for it!

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