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LaSD, Chapter 19

Chapter 19. Toward Being Out of the Box

Last chapter ended with Lou telling Tom he already knew hot to get out of the box. Tom didn’t think so, and neither did I. What did we miss?

Page 130

Toward Being Out of the Box

Toward?! All we get is toward? Had to flip back to the previous chapter to remember that the closing statement was that Tom already knew how to get out of the box.

Tom pushes back. He doesn’t know, or at least doesn’t know he knows.

Lou counters, saying it was the same for him.

Lou’s explanation: when regretting how he had acted, and was seeing Nancy and Cory and his coworkers as people, he was already out of the box.

[Lou] In the moment I felt the keen desire to be out of the box for them, I was already out of the box toward them. To feel that desire for them was to be out of the box toward them.

TD> Emphasis is mine. But this isn’t the same as saying that I can get out of the box anytime just by wanting to. It also doesn’t solidly address knowing that I’m in the box. A thought: See people as people. I just need to repeat that to myself all day. They are people. I suspect it’s not quite that easy.

Bottom of the page, and continuing onto page 131

With Lou’s prodding, Tom realizes he was also treating his family as people. And again says that means you already know how to get out of the box.

Lou continues to play this game with Tom of “you know, you just don’t know you know.”

Half way down the page, the not-so-clarifying that the question of how to get out of the box should really be two questions: 1) how to get out, and 2) how to stay out.

And the repeat, when you’re feeling that you want to be out of the box with someone, you already are.

Bottom of the page, one more repeat, how do you stay out of the box.

Page 132

Tom is understanding, yet still confused. Wondering if he was just lucky last night.

[Tom] When I’m not so lucky, I’d like to know how to get myself out.

[Lou] Fair enough. I’ll do my best, with Bud’s help, to explain how we get out in the first place.

TD> Finally, this sounds like what we’ve waited 132 pages for!

Chapter Summary: A somewhat frustrating chapter as Tom discovers that he was out of the box yesterday, but doesn’t know how he got out. More frustrating that Lou tells him he does know! A partial answer, maybe, when you feel the desire to be out of the box toward someone, then you already are! At the end of the chapter, Lou finally agrees that maybe the answer isn’t totally obvious and promises, with Bud’s help, to explain it.

Another thought. From earlier chapters, the idea was presented of seeing people as people. How well does this overlap seeing people as God sees them?

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